“Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are.” -Chinese Proverb
I just returned last night from a week of visiting family and running around Disney World. Now here I sit, exhausted, bags waiting to be unpacked, a house in need of straightening, groceries waiting to be purchased, and designs for my shop longing for some attention. The two cups of coffee at 7:45 did little to get me moving today. I’ve spent the morning wondering how it is that vacations so often suck the life out of us- the life we were looking to have rejuvenated by said vacation. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t regret taking the trip. I got to spend quality time with my mom and sister, as did my son and husband. Everyone had a great time- we laughed a lot, did fun stuff, saw interesting things, took a side trip to see my other sister and her kids, etc., but it all got me to wondering about the things we do to wear ourselves out. Which then led me to above quote about whom you think you should be vs. who you are.
The danger of going to a place like Disney World is that there is so much to see and do, and with only a week to take it all in, you find yourself rushing to “enjoy” it all. How we vacation typically reflects how we live our daily life. We often end up experiencing things on a surface level in order to “experience” more things, not only on vacations, but in everyday life. We squeeze more activities into our days and weeks, only to find ourselves more drained rather than more fulfilled.
This week, try thinking about the things that wear you out and create tension in your life. Do they represent who you truly are and who you really want to be? What activities can you eliminate to release yourself from being who you think you should be? Would eliminating those activities allow more time for you to be fully engaged in activities that reflect who you really are? It seems that the most natural and relaxed state of being should be when you are being yourself.